How to Start Your Recovery Process From Being a Codependent
It is difficult to have the knowledge that someone that you hold dear is having a hard time with extending love to themselves.
Love is something that needs to have respect and boundaries. However there are some who are not adept at doing so because they have fallen in love with an addict. Some of these people end up being co-dependents to the person that they love that they don’t have boundaries anymore from themselves. One big consequence of this is that they turn to being a martyr for this person, overlooking their needs and wants in order to accommodate the wishes of this person. This makes the relationship that they engage in a one-sided one and thus not a good relationship. Such behavior is of course unhealthy and the codependent must seek out ways so he or she can recover from his or her codependency. If you happen to be a codependent then you can read below on some steps that you can take so that you can begin your road to recovery.
For someone who has a problem the first step that needs to be done is to know about the problem and if your problem is codependency then you need to learn about this. For this you can simply look for information on the internet. You will be able to find there many websites that have rich information on codependency. Another way by which you can learn about it is to get information on it from a therapist that has a specialization on this. You can also easily find books that have such kind of topic.
Know the Behaviors
When you start to be aware of a negative behavior then you can start to do something about it. That is why it is important for you to find out about behaviors that show codependency so that you know about them. If you find yourself starting to bend backwards again for the person you love then you need to stop yourself right there and then. When you become aware of your actions then you have the power to stop yourself from continuing to get involved in such actions.
3. Practice Self-Awareness
You have to practice being aware of what you are doing so that you know if you are about to engage in codependent behavior. Not only that but you need to be mindful of what starts this type of behavior in you so that you can stay away from them.
You need to learn how to detach mentally and emotionally from the addicted person that you love. You always need to see that your happiness is not completely dependent on this person.
Seek Out Support
You need to join a group that helps people on the codependent recovery journey.
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